[ “MARRIAGE IS LIKE A SHOE” ] Take Note Of That!
MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize be ready to drag it along throughout life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains throughout life.” One thing about marriage is that you don’t drop your shoe or remove it at any point or anyhow, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. Unless if you are not a true child of God.
That’s why I thought it necessary and wise to write you this letter in this [ JANUARY / NEW YEAR ], to give you some common sense. This kind of info, you can never get it from school at any level. That’s why you need to give me your ears and undivided attention. And adhere also, so that it may be profitable to you. Be more of a doer, not just a hearer only.
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Dear Singles,
When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things: And also understand that it is only one [ Man / Woman ] one shoe. Any more than that is not allowed or permitted, order from the manufacturer. Very simple.
1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE:
Do not focus more on the beautiful or attractive ones. Do not look for the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you. Not every beautiful or attractive woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your purpose, values, and beliefs. The one who you meet on your life’s journey. It is important to know where you are going in life before you think of getting a wife or a husband. Purpose first before any other thing. But take note of this, the attraction is very necessary and important, don’t get me wrong. In fact, never you marry someone you are not attracted to physically no matter whatever because it will cause a problem in the future, it is a must. But my message is, don’t focus more on attraction / physical appearance, or money/material possession because that’s not the ultimate and can never sustain marriage alone.
2. POSITION:
All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place.
There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sports footwear, snickers, etc. We have Children sizes, young people’s sizes, and adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian and be looking for a wife material at a club, or pub, or anyhow hotel, and so on… Your wife or husband can’t just be everywhere. Stick to your values and therein you shall find someone like you. But when your values are not defined anyone can just match you. Discover yourself and define your values. What causes more problems in relationships/marriage is a different values systems. It is very very important.
3. PERCEPTIONS: [ “No Test Before Buying” ]
In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try or test the shoe before you buy it. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling, from people who have bought the shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes, like your ( Pastor / Mentor, Spiritual Marriage Counselors, and Relationship Coaches). And most importantly to avoid much time-wasting or complications, simply consult the shoe manufacturer to tell you your size ( The Almighty God ).
NOTE: “You do not prepare for a wedding, you prepare for marriage. And you don’t prepare in marriage, you prepare for marriage”. Ladies of today get so motivated and excited when they attend weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy. Wait!!! It is not just a wedding ooooh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT? Are you fully prepared for what will come after? Ponder deeply about that and advice yourself properly.
Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions like,
-Where is this shoe made from? ( Background ).
-What’s the size? ( Values ).
-How much? ( His/Her interest ).
-How long will it last? ( His/Her Character ). Character is the key to sustain marriage most.
-Who made it? ( Is she/He of the same faith This is compatibility ).
-Will it match me? ( This is whether he/she loves you real and will accept you the way you are and your God’s given vision, even without much evidence now ). But learn to develop and add value to your life. And if your character is not too good or attractive, please learn to change for the better and stop looking for who will like or love you the way you are because no one will like or love nonsense. A piece of very candid advice to whom it may concern.
Dear one, remember many are dragging their foot and they would hardly reach their destinations, many are feeling endless pains and wish they could pull off the shoes but no way!!! I have seen people with very beautiful and attractive shoes and when they show you their foot, you will see scars. Beloved, it is not about the physical, it is about the size. You can’t know the size from afar so come close, build a friendship first before relationship/marriage. But remember, you are not allowed or permitted to try or test it before you buy it, or you will be disqualified by the manufacturer. And for those who have purchased the wrong shoes, you can still make it your size again if you will humble yourself, admit and accept your mistakes and consult the shoe manufacturer sincerely from your heart, and let Him have His way in your marriage.
May God grant us more understanding and the grace to make the right choices and decisions, on this subject matter on the journey of life, Amen!
May God bless us all! Please Feel Free To Share To All Singles, You Might Be Touching Someone’s Life. That’s The Way It Is. We Must Continue! “JESUS IS LORD”.
Written By Bro. Iyke Amadi